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The Care and Feeding of Magical Creatures


My youngest son goes to full-day Kindergarten today.  My oldest begins middle school.  I can remember when my first headed off for pre-school and we packed his blanket in his bag, his slightly-too-large, golden blond head peering over the side at the little square of security that was to go with.  When he walked in he had a tentative look in his eye, but a steady gait and I thought, “Maybe if you have to take your woobie with you, you are too young to go to school.”  I was wrong, of course.  They had a train table and blocks and his first chosen friend, William.

At dinner on Sunday I voiced the thought that had been bouncing around in my head.  “Every day now, from 8 until 3:30 I will be here alone.”  All three boys and Mr. Blandings stared back at me, momentarily speechless.  Being at home alone is not something of which any of us has much experience.  “What will you do?” one asked, and then they started filling my days with wonders only they could imagine.  “You could watch Sponge Bob ALL DAY.”  “And eat Skittles.”  “Or popsicles, I would eat popsicles all day.”  “You won’t be alone, you’ll have Rosie.”
And what we could all sense is that it is a big transition.  Alone, for all of us, has both positive and negative connotations.  What is the point of watching Sponge Bob and eating Skittles all day if there’s no one there to eat the green ones for you?
While cleaning up, Mr. Blandings assured me that if I got lonely he would come home for lunch to keep me company.  I’m not one who has usually equated being alone with loneliness.  I’m afraid that I will be busy, but fruitless, so anxious to do so many things that have been on the back burner for the last twelve years that I will just be in a limbo of false starts.
Mr. Blandings’s routine will not change.  He has always walked in around six to find us at home  practicing, studying, horsing around and on the rare occasion, cooking.  The rest of us, me and the boys start the day with a bit of excitement and trepidation.  All prepared and all wondering, “What comes next?”  
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Happy Something


A milestone of sorts.  My first post is dated August 6th, but that must have been the day I started working on it.  At the time, I was unaware that one could modify dates and time.  The plan, if you could call it that, was to publish on my birthday.  I don’t know why.  And I didn’t, I actually published the day before my birthday for no known reason.  A year ago today.

I sent an email to Courtney, Jennifer and Megan entitled, “I’m up.”  Courtney and Jennifer posted comments within two minutes of one another on the blog and Megan emailed immediately and said, “Let me know when you are ready for me to let people know.”  She posted about Mrs. Blandings a couple of days later.  They were my top three bookmarks then and they are my top three bookmarks now, but, oh, how my list has grown.

Sometimes people ask me how it’s done or how I find the time.  The how it’s done is easy, a monkey could do it (if a monkey could read.)  If you are curious, log onto blogger.com and the system walks you through the entire process.  (I’m sure typepad is the same.)  You don’t even have to make it available to other folks, you can keep it all to yourself if you like.  
The funny thing about finding the time is, I have always done the stuff that you would call the “work.”  Tear sheets and resourcing and researching and reading.  I’ve been doing that for years.  The fun of blog reading was finding other design crazies who do it, too.  The other part, the writing, as it turns out is pure joy; I simply cannot imagine life without it now.
I can’t believe it’s only been a year.  You have no idea how grateful I am that you stop by and visit.  It’s such a gift.  And for that, I say, “thank you.”
I do not have an inspiration board, only because I don’t really have a spot to put it.  If I did, and I could only choose one image to place upon it, it would be this.  A Kate Spade ad from several years ago.  This image sums up all the good stuff for me.  Note the chinoiserie headboard, the Osborne and Little paper, Asuka, has long been on my hit parade, the lush blooms and a touch of modern in the table.  The contrast on the pillowcases is actually navy, but if I squint my eyes just a touch it looks like black grosgrain ribbon.  The vintage watch, the inspiration for my fifteenth anniversary gift from Mr. Blandings because I adored the clean whiteness of the face and the slashes instead of numbers and the way the face itself spanned the width of her wrist; I realized when I pulled it out again that I had, unwittingly, procured a similar band.  And she writes.  If only there were a touch of that smudgy turquoise it would be perfection.
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“Where Are You?”


So asked an anonymous reader.  Forgive me, I’ve been on vacation.  I know I usually let you know before I go, but as I have revealed nearly everything there is to know about me, it seemed somehow unwise to skip town for nine days and alert total strangers in advance.  I mean, I’m going to seminars on this kind of thing for my eleven year old.

Anyway, it was a bit of a blog debacle.  I had half-way prepared posts in advance, but then left my notes in the car, which ended up in “the satellite garage.”  It’s not that it could not be retrieved, it just seemed like so much trouble.  I hated to ask.
To fill you in, we loaded up the boys and headed out for a nine day driving tour of the Midwest.  My idea, of course.  Mr. Blandings’s idea was to go to Cascade, Colorado, only he’s been having that idea for the last sixteen years.  We haven’t gone every year, but a conservative estimate would be, say, ten times.  Maybe twelve.  I just thought, it might be fun to do something different.

Gorilla, Omaha Henry Doorly Zoo.
One of the tricky things about being married is the finding a balance in the way to do things.  Generally, if both people are engaged and conscious, each has a “right” way for things to be done.  When to open Christmas presents whether eve or morning, the amount of hoopla a birthday deserves from minimal to Big Mamoo and where to go on vacations.  I’ve noticed a lot of folks “always” go to fill-in-the-blank.  And that is right and everything else is wrong.  Not nearly as good.  In fact, bad.

Hydrogen bomb, Omaha Strategic Air Command Museum.

My family, or my divided family, took the other route.  We went somewhere different nearly every time.  One of my earliest vacation memories is the last trip my parents took together.  We lived in Atlanta and drove up the entire east coast to Canada then back down, slightly west, culminating in lost car keys in, maybe Alabama that required two of us flying back (me and my dad) to make the Donny Osmond concert while two of us waited to receive the overnighted spare keys to drive back (my mom and two year old sister, the key loser.)  My parents separated three months later, but I’m sure that is a coincidence.

My proposal to Mr. Blandings was north to Omaha to see the zoo and the Strategic Air Command Museum, northeast to Dubuque to visit college friends, southeast to Chicago for the bulk of the trip and then south to St. Louis before we headed home.  

Wrong.  Folly.  But as he has been raised by lovely people he simply ignored the plan for a few weeks.  Like all things that are unspeakable, he hoped it would go away.  Instead, I pushed on with reservations and maps and house-sitters. 
The day of, resigned, he loaded the car and off we went.  Left to Blandings, my children might never see a big city.  It’s not discussed, so much, but big cities seem to be avoided.  Which could be fine, except I love big cities.  My adrenaline jumps at just the thought of a city vacation.  I adore the energy and the options.  The boys had not been to a big city and I thought Chicago was a fine place to start.  

New butterfly exhibit, Omaha Zoo.

But first to Omaha and the Zoo was amazing and Strategic Air Command was particularly fabulous if you are a boy and think war is heroics and bravery and glory.
Dubuque was the best.  I had made unfortunate hotel reservations over the protests of our friends.  “Stay here!  We have room!”  They said it again and again, but I worried.  There are five of us.  Five.  And three of us are unruly, poorly disciplined, boys.  I feared they would loathe us at the end of three days.

Chicago Science and Industry Museum, submarine exhibit.

 But the hotel room was a problem.  Unruly and poorly mannered next-door-neighbors made themselves known at 1 a.m of our first night.  Mr. Blandings and I lay awake listening to the untoward scene next door, unable to call the management to complain as the boys were thankfully sleeping though it.  To make the phone call might wake them.  Better for them not to hear.  So, on night two, we accepted the gracious invitation and moved our brood in.  

Playing in the Mississippi.

I adore children and the fact that they can be life-long friends in the manner of three minutes.  Of course, our hosts offered a relaxed and honest hospitality that I hope someday to be able to repay.

Mississippi River.
Chicago.  Chicago is easy. It’s big and offers all the big city things – museums and restaurants and mass transit – without being so hard. Chicago is Midwest. It folds you in. People everywhere, one on one, are mostly the same. In Manhattan, Kansas and Manhattan, New York some people are nice and some people are not. The difference is how people are en masse. In New York you do have to prove a bit. In Chicago, you don’t. I don’t want the boys to think cities are scary; I want them to think they are exciting.
Upon returning, when asked, “What was your favorite part of the trip?” they all replied, “The hotels and the food.”  Lots of pizza and french fries.  But they loved Chicago.  

Chicago Science and Industry Museum, glass exhibit, Frank Lloyd Wright windows.
The Shedd and the Field Museum and the beach and the Cubs game.  Each admitted they could live there someday.
Chicago Field Museum, Sue, the largest, most complete, best preserved T Rex discovered to date.

The train was an adventure, but no more so than cabs.  Cabs are like Space Mountain except you don’t have to wait in line as long.  

A stop at the beach on the way back from Navy Pier.

I have to admit, I wanted to by-pass St. Louis.  The whole trip seemed one day too long and I was longing for home.  And Rosie.  We offered it up, but the boys, seasoned travelers now, insisted on St. Louis.  We basically ate, slept and saw the Arch, but it was worth it.  The Arch was gleaming and majestic and so much darn bigger than you think it is. 

St. Louis Arch.
So, home again just in time for the dentist and orthodontist and back to school.  I don’t think Mr. Blandings will be filing today, though he always seems to have an “early meeting” the Monday following a vacation.

But that’s ok.  It’s just how we do things.
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Darling, Margaret


M. Russell

NY, NY  10019
Darling Margaret,
You’re such a doll!  Imagine the thrill of returning home from our family vacation to find your treat waiting for me on the kitchen counter.  You shouldn’t have!

To start, adorable Nate.  I wish I’d run into him while we were in Chicago, but it was so fun to see that his place is so, well, done and un-done.  A special treat.
And while we were gone I had just been thinking about Mayer Rus, wondering what he’d been up to. Wry and witty, you know he has always been a favorite; I do miss him.  Terrific to catch up over Andrew Fisher and Jeffry Weisman’s home in Healdsburg.  
Forever grateful – you know just what a girl needs.  Hope all is well – you look GREAT, by the way.  Do keep in touch; I can’t believe it’s been a month already.
Yours,
Mrs. Blandings
p.s.  Have the tivo set – can’t wait for the new season of Top Design.  Do dish about India – she seems fab!
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Ode on a CB Glass

Thou still unravish’d bride of quietness
Thou foster child of commerce and market
Blogging poet, who canst thus express
Wonder of form wherever I park it
Clean and clear with classic lines magnificent
One marvels at your beauty unlimitless
At two dollars and fifty heaven sent
Tho if you shatter it is quite a mess
Clear glass, clear liquid and a squish of lime
Mr. B and I find you mighty fine.
Glasses here.  Sincere apologies to John Keats. 
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